General Information
| Thomas Hatfield has been vouched for | | VERIFIED MEMBER (2) more info | | Couch available | Yes |
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| CouchSurf requests replied to | 100% |
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| member since | May 5th, 2005 |
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| profile views | 1457 |
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| age | 53 |
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| birthday | February 16th
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| gender | Male |
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| membername | TAWMESS |
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| occupation | Adrift in the Flow -- Answering the Call of the Universe ! |
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| education | Trusting my instincts, doubting my fears |
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| grew up in | loose on the planet -- stretching between Atlanta & Boone NC |
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Languages- EnglishExpert
- GermanIntermediate
- FrenchBeginner
Groups I Belong To Asheville & WNC 315:460
Why: Helping start a new ecovillage, on 30 acres just an hour north of Asheville !
| Boone, North Carolina 11:4
Why: Let's gather & celebrate -- all you CSers in Boone!
| East Tennessee 21:10
Why: Helping to start a new ecovillage near Johnson City -- and connect with local CSers!
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Couch Information
Couch Available: Yes
Preferred Gender: Any
Max Surfers Per Night: 5
Shared Sleeping Surface: Depends
Shared Room: DependsWe've got lots of room, and lots of rooms too -- so, it's up to you! It's cold in the winter time, so bring your sleeping bags and long-johns! With 30+ acres of pristine nature, and several cabins & mobile homes -- we have lots of space and room!
And, if you'd like to visit and help start-up this new eco-village, please come stay awhile with us and explore this amazing land and way of living!
For more info, here's our online posting...
http://directory.ic.org/21914/Harmony_Springs
Friends (23)
 Tara-Lee Duffy
25, Female
Montreal, Quebec
Canada
Friends since June 2005
"we met in the metro in Montreal!"
Friendship Type: 7 - Best Friend
I vouched for Thomas Hatfield
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 THE_URBANIAK
31, Female
Montreal, Quebec
Canada
Friends since June 2006
"An Inconvenient Truth brought us together, a movie about global warming."
Friendship Type: 6 - Close Friend
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 Lou Garcia
22, Female
Montreal, Quebec
Canada
Friends since August 2008
"This is a long story, beautiful : we met thanks to the Montreal winter... "
Friendship Type: 7 - Best Friend
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 Mélissa Desjardins
24, Female
Montreal, Quebec
Canada
Friends since March 2007
"I know Thomas from other friends."
Friendship Type: 6 - Close Friend
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 Paolo Boe
37, Male
Plano, Texas
United States
Friends since August 2006
"I met Thomas at Burningman 2006. At the time I was enduring some drama and I prayed for an Angel. Within minutes, Thomas rode up on his bicycle and shared his calming mantra of perfection."
Friendship Type: 6 - Close Friend
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 Kalispell
101, Female
Tucson, Arizona
United States
Friends since July 2007
"Met at a CS barbecue in Tucson - & are together the undefeated Foosball champions of Brenda's table!"
Friendship Type: 3 - CouchSurfing Friend
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 Lauren Mandelker
24, Female
Montreal, Quebec
Canada
Friends since June 2006
"Spent quality time getting to know each other and talk among friends"
Friendship Type: 4 - Friend
I vouched for Thomas Hatfield
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 Linda Fitzpatrick
55, Female
Tucson, Arizona
United States
Friends since May 2008
"When I met Thomas at a networking event, I recognized him as a kind person with a playful, inquisitive manner, very open to experiencing life. "
Friendship Type: 4 - Friend
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 Lillie Ward
25, Female
Atlanta, Georgia
United States
Friends since August 2008
" Met him by chance at Alchemy Festival 08."
Friendship Type: 4 - Friend
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 BRENDAG
39, Female
Tucson, Arizona
United States
Friends since July 2007
"Met at a barbecue at my home"
Friendship Type: 3 - CouchSurfing Friend
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Personal DescriptionSince age 45, I am now enjoying relearning how to live, with an unbridled and unfettered exuberance!
How did I get this way? Well, you can read all about -- in the section below: "Teach, Learn, Share"...
This new approach has worked, like magic!
A new strong sense of self, buoyed by a powerful spirit of the perfections abounding, all around and within -- with superb friends and ease of making new friends!
How I Participate in CS2In any and all ways!CouchSurfing ExperienceHosted, and joined a "CS Collective", and enjoyed social gatherings! PhilosophySee below -- "Teach, Learn, Share"...
Also, here's my favorite quote:
"The idea is to be in a constant state of departure, while always arriving!" -- from the film "Waking Life"
Also, here's my favorite definition of "Spirituality":
-- to reflect, feel, and express a cosmic gratitude,
to appreciate the beauty of the whole,
as well as be absorbed in our own limited projects and passions
(as the ultimate happiness,
and the ideal expression of emotional integrity)."
Music, Movies, Booksthe film "Waking Life"Types of People I enjoyYou! Let's talk!Teach, Learn, ShareI've turned my life around, gaining real spiritual awareness -- where spiritual means "Gratitude for the whole, and my role within it, as absolutely perfect!"
Now I'm eager to share -- so here's my lessons in life...
At 45, I hit my "wall" in life, and saw for the first time, how and why my life was not working.
Here's the simple logic I postulated, to make some sense of my mess in life -- as I reeled and staggered spiritually, after hitting my "wall"...
Ok, given that my best efforts are yielding opposite results -- #1) What is my existing approach to life?, and #2) What would be a "polar opposite" approach? (which most likely might offer some real successes, given the failures of my existing approach )...
#1) My existing approach to life -- "Seek to control the future, by carefully thinking and acting now, to make others happy!" In other words, "My happiness depends on my making others happy with me?" Clearly, this approach seems a valid description/prescription for a "co-dependent" quagmire!
#2) The polar-opposite approach: Let go of the future, and live fully in this moment, knowing that "here & now" is all we ever really have, anyway! And being immediately authentic is the first and foremost challenge in life -- yes?
Oops! Seeing this new logic, for the first time -- I realized that I had no idea of how to live fully in this moment!
Yet, I trusted my brain to learn -- without turning to books, as much as I loved them throughout my life -- knowing that the only way to really learn to live "in the moment" was by simply living with awareness within each moment...
Here are the simple rules I set for myself, in order to learn to live fully within each new moment:
Rule #0 --
"Know that I have a big heart and a fine mind"
This means that I want the best for others, according to their own choices -- and the best I can do is stay "out of the way" while supporting them in making their own choices, since they'll either get what they want, or learn to make different choices... Absolutely Perfect!
Rule #1 -- "Trust and rely on my instincts!"
This means for me to act and speak (or not act and not speak) according to my immediate awareness, without having to "think first" (without considering how others might judge me) -- knowing that this is the best way to hone my instincts, and also to easily see the true inner character of others (as they respond to my non-thinking reflexes)...
Rule #2 -- "Doubt my fears!"
This means to sense when I shy away from doing something, or saying something -- instead, I trust my instincts, and immediately do or say it, anyway! Almost always, I learn that the fear was not real, it was only an inner unreal thing, which immediately disappeared, as I went right at it!
Rule #3 -- "Learn the difference between my instincts and my fears!"
This is the hard part, but oh so essential!
The result of all this has been such a big blessing -- since age 45, my life has become a source of real fun, happiness, and spiritual introspection and reflection -- for myself and others!Locations TraveledTRAVELED: Italy, Japan, United Kingdom, United States
LIVED: Canada, Germany, United States
WANTS TO GO: Australia, Iceland, India, New Zealand, Singapore
References
 From Tori Cox Banner Elk, United States
Nov 27  Positive Thomas is a walking, talking ball of positive energy. I really appreciated unique way of connecting with each person and his ability to live in the moment. I learned a great deal from Thomas in a very short time and look forward to seeing more of him. He is a truly beautiful person.  From Taylor Boyle Boone, United States
Nov 25  Positive Thomas is a wonderful fellow with a great take on life. So many random coincidences occurred between our first communication and when we finally hung out, that it just seemed like it was meant to happen.
I look forward to seeing him in Boone much more, and maybe even making out to his place in Elvin.  From John Utter Springfield, United States
Jul 1 Positive I shared a too-short weekend with Brenda, Tom (& his aforementioned son), and Kevin - and enjoyed every memorable minute of it. Brenda & Tom are completely gracious, surprising us with a birthday dinner for myself and a *new* couchsurfer as soon as we arrived after a long day of travel & sightseeing around Tucson.
Tom's kind demeanor and bright outlook is like a breath of fresh air. Be sure to meet him, and make the time to listen. He is dialed in.  From Jean-Sébastien Ritchie Montreal, Canada
Jun 20 Positive Thomas is a big hearted guy who seems to know how to live in the present. He had made grow some good ideas and ways to appreciate the life during interresting exchanges my friends and I had with him. I'm soo glad to meet you to Thomas! From Tara-Lee Duffy Montreal, Canada
Jun 6  Positive Thomas Hatfield is the best kind of friend you can have! So positive, so PERFECT! So present, clever, interesting and interested! So fun! I trust you and love you so much!
From BRENDAG Tucson, United States
May 28 Positive Thomas has a wonderful spirit and a great outlook on life. He finds joy in everything. Thomas chooses to see and affirm the perfection that lies within each of us. I would encourage you to meet him if you have the opportunity.
From Paolo Boe Plano, United States
May 27  Positive Thomas is like a guardian angel that always makes contact when you need a little assistance. I truly believe that Thomas is an authentically beautiful soul and I'm excited about surfing on his couch soon.
From Mélissa Desjardins Montreal, Canada
May 14 Positive Thomas is a very close friend of mine. Great spirit he lights up a room when he comes in and and keep the spirits up when he leaves! If you are lucky he will share his great energy throuhg a shoulder rub. Thomas, I miss you and wishes you were here!
 From KAYINHK Hong Kong Island, China
May 6 Positive I had the pleasure of meeting Thomas at a CS gathering in Tucson. He's a delightful person and fascinating to chat to. Great sense of humour and endlessly curious about the world. And he gives the best shoulder massages! From Lauren Mandelker Montreal, Canada
Mar 24 Positive One has to admire Thomas's appreciation of life and humanity in general. He takes a keen interest in the people around him, and can often be found contributing positive insight upon a situation.
 From Eric Naumann North Aurora, United States
Mar 13  Positive Smart man, great advice that I will be sure to follow From Kalispell Tucson, United States
Sep 20, 2007 Positive You may be struck by Thomas’ presence, and definitely by his intellect and conversation. He’ll tell you he’s pragmatic, but he’s also quite intuitive! Share your time together, and get a glimpse of a unique and wonderful life philosophy. Thanks Thomas!
 From OH DONNA Chico, United States
Aug 3, 2006 Positive Thomas is an Extremely Kind and Generous individual. He is patient and understanding as well. What a host! He waited for my long overdue plane at the airport so I could find his home. He also took me on a 5 hour walking tour of Montreal! I can't wait to meet up at burning man and share some more life moments with this wonderful person! From THE_URBANIAK Montreal, Canada
Jul 24, 2006 Positive Tawmess is so on my wavelength that I fear that my opinions are quite biased. That said, he is the best!
 From Ed Yersh Montreal, Canada
Jul 17, 2006 Keeps It Real. He's welcome on my couch again anytime. |
