Matthew Sanow

Howell, MI, United States

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  • Fluent in English; learning Hebrew (modern), Portuguese
  • 36, Male
  • Member since 2012
  • English Teacher/ writter
  • Some college
  • From Howell, Michigan
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About Me


Meet as many Carioca and experiance as many things as possible while I am here


Whatever happened to "courting" someone? Everyone seems to get way to serious way to quick now a days. There seems to be four steps to the modern relationship prior to getting engaged:

Dating: A period during which a guy takes a girl out and trys to get into her pants... Meanwhile, the woman is trying to get as much stuff/money out of the guy as possible without "giving it up."

f_ck_ng: Still no commitment, you just call each other up any time you want to get off, and occasionally you hang out too.

Seeing each other: Finally, some form of commitment. You're still f_cking, but now you pretty much only f_ck each other... However, if you should happen to find someone else to go f_ck, it's OK... just tell the person you're seeing and end it (though usually most people don't bother to tell).

Going out: Congratulations, you are now officially attached at the hip. You have sex any time you want, and spend nearly every waking moment with the person you're seeing. Taking time out for friends, although it is allowed, leaves you feeling guilty because you're so "missed" in your absence. Or, you can see your friends with the person you're "going out" with... This leaves little time to talk about personal things.

Perhaps I'm just behind the times, but I HATE the GAME. I could have game, but I refuse. I wish there was a happy medium between modern relationships and the dating style of the Victorian era. Back then, there were three phases to a relationship, but they were much more discreet and proper. The whole process was described as courting, and nobody else knew anything more about what was going on between two people (or at least they didn't say anything about it):

Courting: During this phase, a man is completely emphatuated with a woman. Monetary and material things were completely useless. The whole idea was to get to know each other, and to show how much you cared through chivalry, respect, and romance. All the while sexual tension is building, passion is flourishing, and all of it goes unsaid... It's known, but not spoken. There's no f_ckin yet.

Flirtatious courting: After a couple got to know one another, wanting nothing more than to rip each others clothes off, they would discreetly flirt with one another. In public the only physicality to a relationship was holding hands and the occasional embrace. When nobody else was around, they would kiss. In passing, they would lightly brush up against one another suggestively. Just enough physical contact to perpetuate the anticipation and the fantasy, yet not enough for others to notice. Still no f_ckin.

Secret Lovers: Although most people in the Victorian Era subscribed to the Judeo Christian belief of waiting until marriage to have sex, many couples had secretive sexual encounters. They would sneak out of their homes in the middle of the night and find a secluded area to be together. Either in a distant meadow or in the barn on a pile of hay and blankets. To them, it was a special time... To others, it never happened. Finally, a release of all of that tension, and I bet it was far greater than anything the couples of today have ever experienced.

Today's society is just too sexually oriented. Don't get me wrong, I love sex, and it's great to have a f_ck buddy. When it comes to relationships though, I prefer the anticipation, the romance, and the secretive nature of "courting.", or at least somewhere in between. What do you think?


"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brothers eye while you have a stick sticking out of your own eye?"
Yeshua of Nazareth

Why I’m on Couchsurfing


I am currently looking for love and or a couch in Rio (maybe a couch I love) for the next 3 months. I have been staying with one of my best friends who is Brazilian unfortunately she is very sick and will need Chemo. While she is going through treatment both her and her mother would prefer me to not be living here. I have a 2 jobs while I am here so have steady income. Paying rent is an option. Will be looking to have a good time as well as (if the opportunity arises) a place to stay from Feb to April, while I am here. Thanks Saúde


none new on here, when I get back home my place is open to anyone

Music, Movies, and Books

Bible, Sid Harta, Love and war, anything physiological. Movies (almost) anything Will Farell

One Amazing Thing I’ve Done

Rio De Janiero

Teach, Learn, Share

I have enojyed all interactions with many people I have met while I have been here. It is my first time traveling and I am loving the Portuguese language. I speak little Portuguese and enjoy trying to communicate with people that either know little to no English. I would like ideally to meet someone with a couch or room available in Rio De Janeiro that is willing to trade either carpentry services or Engligh teaching services for a place to stay for 2 or 3 months. Thinking maybe 2 hours a day of conversational lessons and the opportunity to live with a native English speaking American.

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