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Following the death of my husband my daughter and I are travelling from my current home in Turkey across Europe to France to set up and run our own eco friendly campsite, as part of our adventure we would like to meet and experience new people and cultures on the the way to our new life.
I am a retired teacher who has been travelling for the last five years and this will be my daughter's first real travel trip. My travel adventures are detailed in our blog and I am currently working on developing this into a book, you can find our blog on https://www.travelblog.org/Bloggers/traveltalesofawoollymammoth/ .
Why I’m on Couchsurfing
We are on a limited budget and want to make the most of new lives together
Writing and blogging, travelling, music, cooking, reading, swimming and cycling
One Amazing Thing I’ve Done
So many things and so many amazing places but probably standing at the top of Mount Nemrut is my current most amazing ahievement
Teach, Learn, Share
English language skills, cooking and cleaning
What I Can Share with Hosts
This is a brief explanation as to the negative reference we have received, this is the only way we think we are able to respond due to being blocked:
Both my Mother I are both sorry to hear that Colin would not recommend us staying with any other couch surfers. there are also some things we would like to clarify ourselves to keep the peace and rectify any miscommunication that has occurred over the past couple of weeks of organising this trip.
2.5 weeks is an acceptable amount of time to give notice to couch surfers to find other accommodation and we both accept this, however the messages we were being sent by Colin did make it seem to us that he was cancelling on us in order to host someone else, this has obviously been a bout of miscommunication and we are sorry for that.
Yes we have both been through an extremely rough couple of years, we like to have plans in place as far as we can into the future because our anxiety and OCD often gets the better of us if this is not the case. Couch surfing is not something we have ever done or experienced before and so we did not know what to expect and we still do not fully know how the whole experience works. We are quite private people and would like to use this couch surfing experience as a way to slowly integrate ourselves and meet new people we would never normally get the chance to at our own pace, maybe this is something we should be clearer about if future couch surfers are to accept us.
Yes it was lovely for Colin to offer to take us round certain places and give us ideas of places to go, but it was not something we expected and would not like to have offended anybody in the process of this either. As for the bombarding messages, this seemed so to us because neither of us use Facebook very much and tend to contact people through other social media sites and especially when we are even able to get access to the internet in-between (recently) working too many hours in a week and consistently having to make trips to various lawyers offices and tapu offices in Turkey to sort out issues involving my Dad’s death over 2 years ago now. The amount of stress can only be imagined then multiplied by 100. Messages were answered as soon as we were able to and we are both sorry Colin was not able to get to know us properly and understand that the last thing either of us would want to do is cause upset or harm.
Through the stress of the moment i think more was read into the messages than should of been on our behalf, and the hasty response/ reference given about Colin was written in the heat of the moment and should not have been published in the first place. Neither of us are homophobic in the slightest and have many friends and family who are gay/bi-sexual/lesbian and transgender. I think the stress of ‘abandonment’ in our eyes at the time made it seem like we were being shunned over someone else.
I would also like to point out that I (Zoe, the daughter) received messages from Colin on Facebook enquiring about splitting the stay with 2 hosts, but by the time I had received them and was able to reply, I had been blocked before I was given a chance to explain fully or before I even know a negative reference had been put online.
We do feel that to ‘avoid hosting us’ is a little unfair when the previous reference written by my mother only said to act with caution on Colin’s behalf, purely because of the cancellation, which is something we were not expecting. Neither of us want to make a bigger deal out this than it already is, and we give our sincerest apologies to any offence caused and hope this message at least can partially explain the reasoning behind the reference and give a little understanding as to why.
Zoe (the daughter).
Countries I’ve Visited
Andorra, Austria, Belgium, Bulgaria, Canada, Czech Republic, Egypt, England, France, Germany, Gibraltar, Greece, Hungary, Italy, Luxembourg, Malta, Monaco, Morocco, Portugal, Spain, Tunisia, Turkey, United Kingdom
Countries I’ve Lived In
England, Spain, Turkey, Wales