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I am quitting Couchhosting permanently.
I remembered why I stopped hosting for the longest time. Couchsurfing isn't free. Someone has to pay in the end. It's the host. And I am usually out of pocket by at least $100 for a few days of hosting.
Hey it's really cool when people say when you wieder nach Deutschland I will host you Ru. I like that and I have returned to visit Marius in Hamburg, Su liana in Heidelberg etc etc. But really, I bet there are alot of other CS hosts out there who are not looking for you to host them, they just want you to show consideration and respect.
You are a holiday maker not a refugee. I help at a women's shelter and I need money to donate to them, not you, you poor little "holiday maker"... oh my poor poor little thing, so poor you couldn't afford a place to stay while on holiday.
Sometimes people don't get the hint that when I say help yourself, I don't mean my toothpaste and everything in my private closet. "Can I borrow toothpaste?" "Can I borrow deodorant?" I hate to have to be so specific but I learnt quickly I had to.
I don't know what the rule is, but I think alot of 20-something year old couchsurfers assume when you are staying with them that they can eat your whole fridge after you offered the first meal. Also 20 something year olds assume you will pay for everything and can't tell you are actually being polite and doing out of compassionate for not turning them onto the road suddenly. I should have said hey, I will sort out your first meal, after that you should really take care of your own meal plans. I didn't want to be so direct but I had assumed people would actually contribute something back.
I also encountered a very disappointing moment e.g. my couchsurfer expected me to pay for her taxi and actually asked me to book her a $30 taxi to the airport, she was out of money. I also very politely declined when she looked at me like, why not. I must have paid for her for at least 3 dinners over the course of her stay, and it was like she forgot I only meant to host her two days. She also threw a tantrum when someone couldn't host her overseas and I rolled my eyes thinking, no one is obliged to host you. Go get a cheap hostel, seriously you can't even afford that? Then how can you be travelling?
When I couchsurf I buy my hosts toilet paper, and if they cook for me, I buy them back the ingredients they put in the meal. It seems commonsense and chivalry is dead in couchsurfers nowadays. They just try to mooch as much off you as possible.
It was even worst when I hosted male couchsurfers. Despite checking them for least 10 good references, I found alot of them actually think I want to sleep with them. Back when I was single, my good will in hosting them actually was misintepreted.
Jordi Calaf from Catalonia Spain, who lived with me for a few months was one exception. He was a surfer but eventually paid abit of rent. He was a beautiful soul and we had a platonic relationship even though I never understood why we never took things further. One day many sad months later I learnt he had cancer and never told me and it explained alot. He told me his time with my housemate Ben and me in australia was amazing and he wished he could live here with us. We were puzzled when he left because he wanted to live with us but never knew he was going home to seek medical treatment. Before he died he gave me a postcard that said I love you on it. He also told his sister to link me his blog. He's someone I will never forget and the memories he wrote of our time together are all over his blog.
Also, on the CS forum nowadays I get ridiculous harassing messages from men just because my profile picture looks nice. Like "Want to catch up for a coffee?" "You look beautiful". "I am from Iran, are you married?"
When I couchsurfed, an awful occasion happened in London a few years ago when a guy told me I was to share a bed with him. Fuck off, you're piss ugly in case you didn't know, I said, and walked out into the night. I also hope no one ever fell for his idiocy but I noted he had so many references from women only.
Yet I did meet many good friends and managed to help people in need. The good surfers truly saved the day.
I feel those days are over. I have a serious partner now and we are trying to build a family. It's sad I am not able to offer more of myself to help genuine travelers looking for a good exchange but I think they are now extinct. I feel it's time to host myself and my partner and enjoy the space we have. We don't want to risk running into more leechers.
Why I’m on Couchsurfing
Really amazing CS requests I have received:
"How are you doing? You know, It’s obvious how some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some people move our souls to dance. They awaken us to a new understanding with the passing whisper of their wisdom. While some stay in our lives for a while, leave footprints on our hearts, and we will never be the same. Friendship first. Well, I'm into music I write (R&B, Gospel, Country and pop) songs and sing also. I'm fun, loving, nice and gentle man. I would share more about myself with you as we get along. Hope to reading a respond note from you."
Hi,how are you?
you are so beautiful.
are you married?
Guitar, gardening, video gaming, backpacking, writing, digesting alchohol, rock climbing, photography, Game of Thrones, couch hosting, trimming bushes into strangely shaped objects, other esoteric hipster type interests.
Music, Movies, and Books
Music: Dubstep, Ministry of Sound, The Kooks, Birds of Tokyo, Bloc party, Phoenix, Two door cinema club, Miike Snow, The Fratellis, Franz Ferdinand
One Amazing Thing I’ve Done
Greece. I will tell you about it if you meet me, I made a wrong turn and had some interesting experiences!
Teach, Learn, Share
Guitar and piano.
Countries I’ve Visited
Austria, Belgium, Bosnia and Herzegovina, Cambodia, China, Croatia, Czech Republic, Denmark, Egypt, Finland, France, Germany, Greece, Hungary, Ireland, Italy, Japan, Luxembourg, Malaysia, Maldives, Mexico, Montenegro, Netherlands, New Zealand, Portugal, Qatar, Slovakia, Spain, Sudan, Sweden, Switzerland, Taiwan, Thailand, Turkey, United Arab Emirates, United Kingdom, Vatican City State, Viet Nam
Countries I’ve Lived In
Australia, Singapore, United States