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  • Member since 2012
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About Me


Trying to stay as a person of ferocious compassion instead of ferocious intellect.


Perhaps, J.D. Salinger said it best when he opened Catcher in the Rye with Holden Caulfield's observation that, "If you really want to hear about it, the first thing you'll probably want to know is where I was born, and what my lousy childhood was like, and how my parents were occupied and all before they had me, and all that David Copperfield kinda crap, but I don't feel like going into it, if you want to know the truth."


Well, I am still working on getting one, give me like 30 years and I will get back to you.

But in the meantime: The most unfair thing about life is the way it ends. I mean, life is tough. It takes up a lot of your time. What do you get at the end of it? A death. What's that, a bonus?!? I think the life cycle is all backwards. You should die first, get it out of the way. Then you go live in an old age home. You get kicked out when you're too young, go collect all your super, then, when you start work, you get a gold watch on your first day. You work forty years until you're young enough to enjoy your retirement. You drink alcohol, you party, and you get ready for High School. You go to primary school, you become a kid, you play, you have no responsibilities, you become a little baby, you go back into the womb, you spend your last 9 months floating with luxuries like central heating, spa, room service on tap, then you finish off as an orgasm! Amen.


Literature, political science, history, gender studies, linguistics, sociology, cultural anthropology, feminist theory, subcultures, colonialism, psychology, Freud, evolution, science, holy books & unholy books, religions, Greek & Nordic mythology, philosophy, cinema, film studies, pop-corn, British humour (not humor),airports, hotels, dogs, road trips, hitchhiking, dreaming, thinking about dreaming... everything under the sun and beyond...

  • books
  • literature
  • politics
  • movies
  • anthropology
  • gender studies
  • psychology
  • religion
  • science
  • sociology
  • hitchhiking
  • road trips

Music, Movies, and Books

While I don't actually have a favorite book or song, or album, or band, or film, or painting, or any other category of things that contain more than one equally great contender, here is a glimpse of things I like - in no particular order.

Movies: The 400 Blows (François Truffaut) ~ The rules of the game, La grande illusion, La Bête Humaine (Jean Renoir) ~ An Autumn Afternoon, Tokyo Story, Late Spring, Late Autumn (Yasujiro Ozu) ~ Andrei Rublev, Zerkalo, Nostalgia, Stalker (Andrei Tarkovsky) ~ Close-Up, Taste of Cherry, The Wind Will Carry Us (Abbas Kiarostami) ~ Accattone, Mamma Roma, Oedipus Rex, The Gospel According to St. Matthew, Teorema, Love Meetings, Arabian Nights, Salò, or the 120 Days of Sodom, Arabian Nights, The Decameron, Medea (Pier Paolo Pasolini) ~ Woman in the Dunes, The Face of Another, Pitfall (Hiroshi Teshigahara) ~ Sherlock Jr., The General, Steamboat Bill Jr., The Navigator, The Cameraman, Seven Chances (Buster Keaton) ~ To Be or Not To Be, Trouble in Paradise (Ernst Lubitsch) ~ Au Hasard Balthazar, A Man Escaped, Pickpocket (Robert Bresson) ~ The Discreet Charm of the Bourgeoisie, Un Chien Andalou, The Exterminating Angel, Belle de Jour, That Obscure Object of Desire (Luis Bunuel) ~ The Passion of Joan of Arc, Day of Wrath (Carl Theodor Dreyer), ~ The Tree of Life (Terrence Malick) ~ Mayis Sikintisi, Uzak, Bir Zamanlar Anadolu'da (Nuri Bilge Ceylan) ~ Uncle Boonmee Who Can Recall His Past Lives, Tropical Malady, Syndromes and a Century (Apichatpong Weerasethakul) ~ The White Ribbon, Caché , Amour, The Seventh Continent (Michael Haneke) ~ Manhattan, Annie Hall, Love and Death, Zelig (Woody Allen) ~ The Decalogue, The Double Life of Veronique, Three Colors Triology (Krzysztof Kieslowski) ~ La Dolce Vita, 8 1/2, Roma, Nights of Cabiria (Federico Fellini) ~ L'Atalante, Zero for Conduct (Jean Vigo) Persona, The Seventh Seal, Cries and Whispers, Scenes from a Marriage, Through a Glass Darkly (Ingmar Bergman) ~ Ran, Rashomon, Ikiru, Dreams, Seven Samurai (Akira Kurosawa) ~ Le Trou (Jacques Becker) ~ The Return, Leviathan, Elena (Andrey Zvyagintsev) ~ Aguirre - The Wrath of God, Grizzly Man, Stroszek, Fitzcarraldo, The Enigma of Kaspar Hauser, Into the Abyss, The Wild Blue Yonder, Land of Silence and Darkness, Lessons of Darkness (Werner Herzog) ~ Metropolis, M., The Testament of Dr. Mabuse (Fritz Lang) ~ Masculine Feminine, Breathless, Contempt, Pierrot le Fou, Band of Outsiders (Jean-Luc Godard) ~ L'avventura, Blowup, Red Desert, Zabriskie Point, La Notte (Michelangelo Antonioni) ~ The Look of Silence, The Act of Killing (Joshua Oppenheimer) ~ A Separation, The Past, About Elly (Asghar Farhadi) ~ Nosferatu, Faust, Sunrise: A Song of Two Humans ( F. W. Murnau) ~ The Big Lebowski, Fargo, The Man Who Wasn't There, No Country for Old Men (Coen Brothers) ~ Dogville, Melancholia, Anticrist, The Element of Crime (Lars von Trier) ~ Pulp Fiction, Inglorious Basterds, Reservoir Dogs, Jackie Brown (Quentin Tarantino) ~ The Turin Horse, Satantango, Damnation (Bela Tarr) ~ Sans Soleil, La Jetee(Chris Marker) ~ Tabu, Our Beloved Month of August (Miguel Gomes) ~ Best Vakit, Jin, Kosmos, Sarki Soyleyen Kadinlar (Reha Erdem) .... and many more.

Books: Anything by these: Dostoyevsky, Ahmet Hamdi Tanpinar, Oguz Atay, Orhan Pamuk, Sabahattin Ali, Kafka, Shakespeare, Nabokov, Orwell, Hasan Ali Toptaş, Bernard Shaw, Henrik Ibsen, J.D. Salinger, John Fowles, Martin Amis, Elena Ferrante, Clarice Lispector, Anaïs Nin, Ursula K. Le Guin, Toni Morrison, Iris Murdoch, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Susan Sontag, Don DeLillo,John Banville, Hermann Hesse, Mikhail Bulgakov, Gabriel García Márquez, Philip Roth, David Foster Wallace...

Music: David Bowie, Kate Bush, Bjork, Radiohead, Tom Yorke, Patti Smith, Nina Simone, Nick Cave, MJ, Morrissey, Porcupine Tree, Joy Division, Archive, The Knife, Fever Ray, Band of Horses, Regina Spektor, Grizzly Bear, The National, King Crimson, Pink Floyd, The Mars Volta, The xx, Florence and The Machine, Angus and Julia Stone, Kings of Convenience, The Avalanches, Slowdive, Editors, Money, These New Puritans, London Grammar, The Radio Dept., Röyksopp, Darkside, Trentemøller, Sigur Rós, Múm, Sólstafir, Vök, Of Monsters and Men, GusGus, Editors, Hot Chip, Haelos, Bonobo, Fink, Zero 7...

Teach, Learn, Share

I have so very much to learn.

Countries I’ve Visited

Armenia, Azerbaijan, Belgium, Bulgaria, China, Cyprus, Czech Republic, Egypt, France, Georgia, Germany, Greece, India, Italy, Kazakhstan, Netherlands, Singapore, Spain, United Arab Emirates, United Kingdom

Countries I’ve Lived In

Turkey, United Kingdom

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